4 Tips For Going From Long-Distance To Newlyweds
June 20, 2017
Advice
The time has finally come! You proved all the naysayers wrong: your love could stand to be tested. After years of being across the country, across oceans or even across the globe, you've successfully closed the gap in your long distance relationship, and even tied the knot, too!
I know from personal experience just how difficult this can be and you should commend yourself and your partner on going the distance—literally! The days of tears in airports and heart-wrenching goodbyes are gone for good, but that doesn't necessarily mean it will all be unicorns and glitter. Read on for what to expect in this new phase of your already-seasoned relationship!


Have the Tough Conversations Early
This long-distance thing might work to your benefit since you'll probably be planning this move well in advance! Use this time to have the conversations about money, bills, and chores early on, to avoid any possible obstacles in the future. Depending on your situation, one of you may be making a much larger move to join the other in their home. It may be worth considering looking for a brand new place to call home. Strive for a sense of ours and not yours/mine.

New Adventures Together
When you're long distance, you're constantly trying to make up for lost time, which means when you're together it's all about trying to engage in normal life and typical couple activities. You can learn a lot about a person when you travel with them and it can really help a relationship to grow when presented with new challenges! So whether it be your honeymoon to Thailand, or a quick road trip to a bed and breakfast, getting out of a normal routine will strengthen your bond.


Talk Schedules
The initial excitement might be a little overwhelming, and you may not want to leave each other's sides ever again. But eventually, the novelty of having your person there every day will dull down (not that it should ever be boring, but you get what I mean). In the first few weeks, try and let each other know about key things you have to do during your day in order to be your best self.

It's likely that you knew they like to do yoga on the floor every day at 6 a.m., but actually being there for it is a different story. Sorting out scheduling differences will allow you to find time in the day to be together and to find alone time to still have your own hobbies. Spending your time in a way you know you both enjoy will help solidify that this new life you've begun together is sustainable and real.

 

Embrace the Little Moments
One of the things you miss most when you're long distance is the day-to-day, simple activities most couples would take for granted. It's important to find new ways to get those warm, butterfly feelings that preceded each time you got to see your significant other. This can include, but is not limited to: making each other breakfast, picking them up from work, meeting up for lunch, going grocery shopping, or walking the dog. Find situations you used to spend on your own and turn them into shared activities you can treasure and look forward to every day!

Style Me Pretty Contributor - Goli Parvinian is a bridal enthusiast and masters student living in Melbourne, Australia. Over the past few years, she has worked for bridal brands in her hometown of Chicago, New Zealand and New York City. You can typically find her in a cafe, face-timing her nieces or out on a long run.